Martinkus’s Amends Matrix is a great model for putting your thoughts down, staying on track, and giving a thorough and clean apology. Writing it out helps slow down our brains and reactivity; we’re better able to focus and be clear-minded….
Jason Martinkus’s Amends Matrix is a great model for putting your thoughts down, staying on track, and giving a thorough and clean apology. Writing it out helps slow down our brains and reactivity; we’re better able to focus and be…
Making Amends Each of the twelve steps has a set of principles and values to work through. They are all for your benefit, and no one else wants this more than you. If you have not made it a practice…
The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous: We are all in a continuous flux, always learning and constantly changing. Step ten tells us to do an ongoing self-assessment and own up to our offenses, “Continued to take personal inventory and when…
A “Higher Power” is something greater than ourselves. It’s a term used in Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), founded in 1935 by Bill Wilson and Dr. Bob Smith. AA was inspired by another Christian organization called the Oxford Group, which was founded…
“The LORD is my shepherd; I have all that I need. He lets me rest in green meadows, he leads me beside peaceful streams. He renews my strength. He guides me along right paths, bringing honor to his name.”Psalm 23:1-3…
Jack learned at a young age that feelings were not safe to express. He couldn’t be authentic with his feelings without shame reminding him, “Only sissies cry, so buck up.” The internal voices of criticism and shame became loud enough…
From the clutches of shame that held him in bondage to a porn addiction he had many years before and into his marriage. After many years of meetings and mentoring other men, he longed to enjoy his marital relationship, be…
“Becoming real requires tolerating discomfort even when your natural inclination is to quit.” The History and Philosophy of Your Emotions The exercise on this page is meant to help you understand where some of your feelings and thoughts originate. Few…
One way to better understand ourselves and our shame is through parts work, a theory called Internal Family Systems, or IFS. Richard Schwartz is the founder of this unique modality. In IFS, Schwartz teaches that parts of us are there…