“Becoming real requires tolerating discomfort even when your natural inclination is to quit.” The History and Philosophy of Your Emotions The exercise on this page is meant to help you understand where some of your feelings and thoughts originate. Few…
One way to better understand ourselves and our shame is through parts work, a theory called Internal Family Systems, or IFS. Richard Schwartz is the founder of this unique modality. In IFS, Schwartz teaches that parts of us are there…
How does your shame, shame you? Do you shut down, freeze, fight, or flee? What is your pattern? Know how to restore a fully engaged self, one that can be clear, concrete, and concise in difficult moments, or when triggered….
Our brain reacts to shame as a threat, shutting down parts of our nervous system. It threatens to activate the frontal lobes that control our executive functioning because it feels like we are in imminent danger. These vital organs monitor…
dreamstime.com Shame is how addictions survive. Shame has no limits or boundaries. It affects us all, men and women, regardless of who we are, or what we do. Left untouched, it will align itself with a fundamental feeling of being…
Time and time again, we ask ourselves, “Where is God in my pain?” It makes sense that a sexual integrity issue would feel like a spiritual rupture. A spiritual relationship with our creator is sacred. It’s the most important relationship…
Treatment-induced trauma is trauma caused by a clinical or medical intervention that causes further harm to the victim. Unhelpful and inexperienced treatment personal can cause a parallel re-injury to the patient or client, including traumatic consequences from clinical interventions, or…
This dimension covers the impact of trauma for partners at a relational level. It reaches all aspects of her community, including the inner, middle and outer circles of relationships. The inner circle includes the relationships closest to her heart, like…
Healthy and secure attachments to human beings are essential to psychological health. Relational trauma and attachment injuries, including attachment rupturing and traumatic relational dysregulation within the system of the coupleship or relationship is another critical injury of sexual addiction induced…
The impact on a woman in the aftermath of discovery has many dimensions, “never did I imagine that this would be so big and so painful”. There is growth in the development of recovery and the healing process. Don’t loose…