One way to better understand ourselves is through parts work, a theory called Internal Family System, IFS. Richard Schwartz is the founder of this unique modality. “Don’t assume your inner critic is what you think it is… it’s a part…
In his book “The Soul of Shame,” Curt Thompson discusses what hiding and holding secrets can do to our inner being. “Hiding is the natural response to shame. This is especially true when we experience it in a toxic form,…
The flipped lid, as Siegel refers to a brain offline (the image where the four fingers are up and not cupped over the thumb/limbic system), commands a reaction from the limbic system; it screams danger! A threat to your mind…
Danger is imminent and activates the frontal lobes that function as our executive level of higher functioning. Cognitive skills include monitoring and organizing our thoughts from going down a slippery slope. Our frontal lobes manage impulse control and problem-solving skills,…
S.O.S.: Stop, Orient, Scale. If you’re any where near a five and above, ask yourself, what needs to happen now to move towards a half digit or more lower? Do you need to call someone, make an appointment with a…
Below are some questions you can bring to the table and use with your accountability person/sponsor. It’s best to meet at least once or more weekly. 2. Have you been truthful and honest with your feelings and thoughts this week?…
The Brotherhood “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” Galatians 6:9 NIV You need the brotherhood to lift you, hold you in prayer,…
Martinkus’s Amends Matrix is a great model for putting your thoughts down, staying on track, and giving a thorough and clean apology. Writing it out helps slow down our brains and reactivity; we’re better able to focus and be clear-minded….
Jason Martinkus’s Amends Matrix is a great model for putting your thoughts down, staying on track, and giving a thorough and clean apology. Writing it out helps slow down our brains and reactivity; we’re better able to focus and be…
Making Amends Each of the twelve steps has a set of principles and values to work through. They are all for your benefit, and no one else wants this more than you. If you have not made it a practice…