Books
Sexual Compulsivity and Addiction
Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes: The classic primer on sexual compulsivity and addiction.
Don’t Call It Love: Recovery from Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes: Outlines the course of recovery from initial discovery to new growth. Includes many helpful true stories.
No Stones by Marnie Ferree and Mark Laaser: About women healing from sexual addiction.
Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Mark Laaser: Another very good primer on sexual addiction written from a Christian viewpoint.
Cruise Control by Rob Weiss: Understanding sex addiction in gay men.
Wired for Intimacy by William Struthers: An understanding of brain chemistry and reactivity to sexual stimulation. Written from a Christian perspective.
Deceived by Claudia Black: A guide to recovery for female partners of sex addicts from a leader in the field.
Your Sexually Addicted Spouse by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means: The trauma model in treating partners as they cope and heal from their loved one’s sexual addiction.
Spouses of Sex Addicts: Hope for the Journey by Richard Blankenship and Spouses of Sex Addicts: Hope for the Journey, Workbook by Françoise Mastroianni and Richard Blankenship: A book and workbook to help the partner heal from the trauma of sexual addiction, along with personal stories, and assignments in the workbook that are experiential and somatically oriented.
Attachment Issues
Healing Power of the Family. by Richard J. Delaney: Describes the relationship patterns and issues experienced by child and family in foster or adoptive homes. Includes many helpful real-life stories.
Facilitating Developmental Attachment by Daniel Hughes: Hughes is a leader in the field. This book is helpful for both professionals and caregivers.
The Hug Therapy Book by Kathleen Keating: A collection of skills and techniques to assist in developing healthy attachment.
Parenting
Your Child’s Self-Esteem by Dorothy Briggs: A guide to understand and support the development of healthy self-esteem in young children.
Freeing Your Child From Anxiety by Tamar Chansky: An excellent starting point for understanding and addressing anxious disorders, including compulsive behaviors, in children.
Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster Cline and Jim Fay: A standard on utilizing natural consequences to teach children responsibly and avoid power struggles.
The Explosive Child by Ross W. Greene: A resource for understanding and helping children who struggle with inflexibility, anger and meltdowns.
Raising Your Spirited Child by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka: A helpful, supportive book for parents of children who are more intense, energetic and sensitive.
Managing Anger: A Handbook of Proven Techniques by Mitchell H. Messer: Highly recommended for assisting children and teens.
1-2-3 Magic by Thomas Phelan: Another helpful book on effectively disciplining children ages 2-12. This resource is also available as a video/DVD.
The Incredible Years by Carolyn Webster-Stratton: Sometimes hard to find, this is an excellent book on dealing with behavioral issues in children ages 3-8.
Internet
In the Shadows of the Net by Patrick Carnes, David Delmonico, and Elizabeth Griffin: A powerful book describing compulsive online sexual behavior and how to address it. Includes exercises to aid in recovery.
The Porn Trap by Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz: Addresses addiction to pornography.
Cybersex Exposed by Jennifer Schneider and Robert Weiss: Geared toward the reader who is evaluating their degree of obsession or compulsion. Helpful evaluation and recovery exercises included.
Cyber-Safe Kids, Cyber-Savvy Teens by Nancy E. Willard: A positive book on addressing internet issues with children and adolescents.
Couples
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman and Nan Silver: A direct and helpful way to look at and improve the marriage relationship.
Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson: A breakthrough understanding of marital conflict based in the need for a secure, accepting relationship. “Cuts to the chase” for many couples with years of struggle.
The New Rules of Marriage by Terrence Real: What you need to know to make love work.
Surviving an Affair by Willard Harley Jr and Jennifer Harley Chalmers: Guides you step by step from the devastating blow of infidelity to a loving and trusting marriage.
Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emmerson Eggerichs
Intimate Issues: Twenty-One Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex by Linda Dillow and Lorraine Pintus
Love and War in Intimate Relationships by Marion Solomon and Stan Tatkin: An integration of neuroscience, attachment theory and relational psychotherapy.
Relationships
Open Hearts by Patrick Carnes; Debra Laaser, and Mark Laaser: A workbook for couples in recovery.
Seven Desires by Mark and Debra Laaser: Written from a Christian perspective, this is a forward-looking guide to repairing and rebuilding relationships.
Sex, Lies, and Forgiveness by Jennifer Schneider and Burt Schneider: A comprehensive guide for working through couple recovery from sex addiction starting at initial discovery through the establishment of new and healthier relationship patterns. Many examples from treatment are included.
Disclosing Secrets by Jennifer Schneider and M Corley: A guide and workbook to appropriate and therapeutic disclosure of sexually compulsive acting out.
Trauma
Waking The Tiger by Peter Levine: A non-pathologizing look at psychological trauma and how it can be addressed.
The Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Sourcebook by Glenn R. Schiraldi: A comprehensive, helpful handbook for understanding and addressing trauma.
Websites
For Sexual Addiction
SexHelp.com: International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals. Informational resources and listing of certified sex addiction therapists.
Sash.net: Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health. Good informational site.
New.RecoveryZone.com: Sexual Addiction Screening Test available to be taken confidentially and at no charge.
SAA-Recovery.org: Sex Addicts Anonymous. Information and list of meetings.
SANON.org: For spouses and partners of sex addicts. Related to Sexaholics Anonymous. Information and contact numbers for meetings.
COSA-Recovery.org: Codependents of Sex Addicts. For spouses and partners of sex addicts. Related to Sex Addicts Anonymous. Information and contact numbers for meetings.
Recovering-Couples.org: Recovering Couples Anonymous. Self-help group for couples to address sexual addiction.
BethesdaWorkshops.org: A Christian recovery organization in Nashville providing intensive outpatient treatment of sexual addiction.
For Children
Attach.org: Association for Treatment and Training in the Attachment of Children.
ChildTrauma.org: Educational series for parents and caregivers.
Other sites
EMDR.com: Information site on the practice of Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
TraumaHealing.com: A naturalistic approach to the resolution and healing of trauma.