Impact letter
An impact letter is what a partner writes within the first week after a formal therapeutic disclosure. She is somewhat still in shock, and yet, she so badly wants to be heard and understood for the trauma and pain she…
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Restitution Letter
Writing a restitution letter to your partner comes within a week of your formal therapeutic disclosure. In this letter, you acknowledge your behaviors and how they have impacted your partner. It is an opportunity to express sincere empathy and remorse…
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The trauma model in the aftermath of a discovery/disclosure
In the aftermath of discovering a spouse’s sexual secrets and addiction, a partner is traumatized. Most women are blindsided, shocked and lose their sense of reality. She is impacted relationally, emotionally, physically, socially, medically, sexually, spiritually. And as a woman,…
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Planning for a Disclosure
Preparing for a disclosure is a long process. Typically, I plan 3 months out for the preparation needed to have the best outcome possible on disclosure day. It is difficult for the partner to think of waiting another three months…
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Facing Heartbreak
In the midst of recovery and the healing process, if there is any dribbling or staggering of information, more secrets, it can throw your partner right back into her trauma. And this is why a complete therapeutic disclosure is needed….
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Why Disclose When You’ve Been Exposed?
First, you may have gotten caught/exposed not of your own will, as in most cases. In those moments, our brains get all “mushy” and we’re in fight, flight, or freeze. In other words, the truth may not all be disclosed….
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Transformation of Heart
2 and 3 Days of Intensive Workshops Discover what it means to be all in, no wavering, but initiating a loyal commitment to your recovery process from sexual integrity issues. Learn how to dig deep into the matters of heart…
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Endurance
Even in trials and tribulations, our suffering develops perseverance. The ability to endure is what it takes to persevere in the making of a man who is safe, sober, healthy, and honest. Put on the armor of God and march…
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You become
“You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, have sharp edges, or must be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are real, most of your hair has been loved…
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Fostering Safety and Trust in the Aftermath of a Relational Rupture
Your journey to healing begins here. For partners who feel lost, alone, confused, and traumatized after betrayal, Becoming: A Guide to Recovery from Sexual Addiction While Helping Your Partner Trust Again offers a path to healing and understanding. This book…
